I think it’s time I come clean. I think it’s time to tell you that I think I am a hater. I see images like this one:
And I think how is that gender neutral? He’s decked out to look like a girl. Is he old enough to be aware of his choices? The picture came with this subtext:
A Boys’ Camp to Redefine #Gender- “Over the past three years, photographer Lindsay Morris has been documenting a four-day camp for gender nonconforming boys and their parents…. It is also a place for both #parents and children to feel protected in an environment that encourages free expression.’[The kids] don’t have to look over their shoulders, and they can let down their guard. Those are four days when none of that matters, and they are surrounded by family members who support them’”
It just makes me wonder if it’s the kids making these choices or the parents. I guess what I am getting at is I think that picture is over the top. The dress, the purse, the lipstick. Maybe I am looking too much into it. Maybe because it seems weird to me, I am hating. If a kid wants to play with “girl” toys, I don’t care. I’d buy my nephew Barbie if he really wanted the doll*. But to turn these kids into miniature cross-dressers seems a bit much. A pink shirt, who cares. Playing around in a pink tutu, no issue**. Decking them out in makeup, slight problem.
My point is they’re still only kids. A lot of the time they don’t know what they want. And a picture like this, what if the kid grows up horrified? Kids constantly change. I’m not who I was as a kid. My ideals and values and wants changed over time. They still do, to be honest.
*Thinking a little more on it, no I wouldn’t. His mother would kill me.
**Technically not an issue to me if they’re little. I’m just being honest.
This post was slightly inspired by the Daily Prompt. Redefining Gender Conformity is not something I have yet to change my view on, but I think it’s something I might try to be more open-minded about.
- Abuse and gender roles (lifeofafallenangel.wordpress.com)
- A Boys’ Camp to Redefine Gender? (standupforthetruth.com)
- photoessay: gender nonconforming camp for boys (feimineach.com)
- A Boys’ Camp to Redefine Gender (chosamantha.wordpress.com)
- Redefining Gender in Children (alextransforming.wordpress.com)
- On gender identity, a disconnect between science and public opinion (denverpost.com)